What is the reason you react to mistakes the way you do?
Mistakes play a huge role in performing, not just because making them can impact the performance, but also because how we feel about them can impact how we perform.
This is the second video in this series and in this video I will help you think about the reason you respond to mistakes the way you do. Often people can think they know the reason, and because of this don’t ask the question. Or you might think it’s just habit. Understanding the reason is the only real way to move to the next step, which I will be talking about in my next video.
Blog Transcript ….
So excuse my state of dishevelment, I’m in the middle of my morning run here in beautiful Barcelona. Here’s some of the beautiful architecture.
So I’m sitting here, it’s rather noisy so I hope you can hear me, but this is the second video about making mistakes. For me this is a really interesting thing to think about. If you think back to last week, and think about what your response is to making a mistake, this week I’d like you think about the reason for that response, because often we don’t look into the ‘Why’ we do stuff, what is the reason? Some people just say, ‘Well it’s just habit, I’ve always done it, I know I shouldn’t but it’s what I do’. I don’t believe in habit in that sort of way, I believe in habit where we don’t think about things and then we do the same things again and again. So what I like to do is turn the camera…ha ha!….turn the camera on what you are doing and go ‘What do I hope to achieve by this?’
And sometimes the easiest way of working that out is…ooh I don’t know what the noise of those birds is!……sometimes the easiest way of working this out is, ask yourself ‘What do I fear will happen if I don’t do this?’ So let’s take for example when you beat yourself up, when you beat yourself up some people fear that if they don’t do, if they don’t beat themselves up…sorry, just looking at my watch there…..if they don’t beat themselves up they won’t get any better, they won’t pull their socks up and they will make a fool of themselves again, for the example of ‘Just don’t bother doing it, don’t worry about it, just you don’t need to do it, don’t put yourself out there.’ Is that fear is to make you safe, so you don’t put yourself out there so you don’t risk things again.
Blaming other people, well if it’s other people’s fault then you don’t need to feel so bad, it’s kind of the displacement of uncomfortable feelings, as Brené Brown would put it. So this week I’d like you to have a think about the reason you react to mistakes the way you do. Than