Finding Joy in Your Performing

How would it feel to really enjoy your performing? This episode is all about how you can change the way you perform so you enjoy it more, and do it better!

Podcast 42 - Finding Joy in Your Performing

The Courageous Performer Podcast

Finding Joy in Your Performing

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[00:00:00] Hi, I'm Hattie Voelcker from Find Your True Voice. And today I want to talk to you about finding joy in your performing because joy can do so much for you as a performer and for your audience. So if you think about it this way, if you feel more joyful and you are enjoying your performing more, you'll be more relaxed.

You'll overthink less and you will do a better job. There'll be less tension, physical tension. There'll be less emotional and intellectual jumbling up of the head. But more than that, you'll also connect with your audience as a result because you'll be more present in the space. And more than that, if you think about the performances that you've seen, when somebody's really enjoying what they do, we enjoy it more.

And it's all to do with mirror neurons and I can talk technical stuff for you, with you if you want. But the truth is, on just a purely anecdotal level, if you're watching somebody who's enjoying what they're doing, you are so much more likely to enjoy it. In fact, it's almost hard [00:01:00] not to enjoy it when someone is genuinely enjoying what they do.

Not showing off, but enjoying what they do. And that means that dynamic between you and the audience improves. So the whole thing just goes up a level. So how do you get joy? Because we've all got the, whether you're a singer, a dancer, a public speaker, an actor, there will be times where you are challenged by the material you are performing, or how you feel about the performance.

And there are three major things that, come into play when we're talking about enjoying your performing or not enjoying your performing . The first is your relationship with yourself. The second is your relationship with your material. And the third is your relationship with your audience. Because if you can get these into a positive place, then the whole thing, as I say, will go up a level.

And I talk about this in great depth in my, I sell a mini course, the Free Your Voice mini course on my website, where I go [00:02:00] into quite some depth with how these all work. But for today, I want to give you an insight into how you can quickly access them. the ideas around this to impact the way you enjoy your performing.

So let's take your material to start off with. Your relationship with your material matters because there will be times where, as I said, you will be thinking about or being asked to perform something that you might not have a connection with, you might not be interested in, or you might even dislike.

Now this is the starting point because I have Spoken to thousands of people over my numerous careers, especially when I was a barrister and now as a life coach. And I can honestly say that I haven't had a client that I didn't like, not over the course of the 20 years of both careers. And I was a criminal barrister at times, so, you know, there were challenges to this, but that's because inside all of us is this humanity, and when you connect with that [00:03:00] humanity, you see the gold within somebody.

You might not like what they have done, but there is always that humanity in them. I would say the same about your material. Although you may not like it, it may not be your favourite material, understanding your relationship to it, and perhaps understanding why you don't like it, can change it, change your relationship, so that you actually find something to enjoy about your material.

You find a way of being interested in your material. Because if you can find a way to connect with your material, then it will be so much easier for you. To enable your audience to connect with your material. And if your audience connects with your material, then you will do a better job.

More than that, if you connect with your material. you will start to enjoy it more. You will start to enjoy the delivery more. If you can find a meaning within it, that you want to communicate to your audience, you will be able to enjoy it so much [00:04:00] more. Plus, if you're communicating it with the audience and they are getting it, you'll enjoy the performance because you'll enjoy that connection with the audience and that will stimulate you.

So when you change your relationship or at least when you start to understand your relationship, do you like the material? What do you like about it? What does it mean? What are you trying to communicate? If you don't like it What's the reason you don't like it? Is it something to do with Something in your life, your patterns, your experiences?

Is it something to do with the material? Is it something to do with your understanding of the material? Can you change that? There is so much depth that you can go into in terms of your relationship with your material. And if you improve your relationship with your material, you will improve your performance.

Now let's take a look at your relationship with your audience because this can be the core of people not enjoying their performance. And that is what you assume your audience is thinking or will think of [00:05:00] you. And so many of the issues with performing come back to how we feel we're going to be judged.

And so if you can think about your audience in depth, so let's take one of the ones that for singers is the most challenging audience, and that can be the audition panel. And you go in front of the audition panel, and all you can think about is what they will think of, of you. But the reality is, Their life is not centered around you.

They will not be looking at you the way you are looking at you. And if you can start thinking about your audience as human beings, no matter how inhuman you might think they are, you will start to soften towards them and see a different part of them, which means you will see that they are judging you differently from how you might initially think they're going to.

Look for the humanity in the audience, because when you start to see the humanity, you can start to relax and enjoy your performance more. [00:06:00] And it also can give you a motivation to enjoy your performance more, because how can you make your audiences stay? This is one of the most important questions. How, for example, right now, What could I say that could make you feel better and enjoy your performing more?

Well, one of the three things I want to say is, if you think about the humanity of your audience and think about what will make their day. It will naturally lead you to being more relaxed and enjoying it because you'll be thinking about them, not about you. It'll take the pressure off you, which will mean you will automatically enjoy your performance more.

Plus, you will be giving them, you're more likely to give them what would make their day. Plus, if you're enjoying it, they will enjoy it, so even an audition panel would rather see someone enjoying the process than someone excruciatingly nervous. So think about your relationship with your audience and how by viewing them as human you can change that.

And the third thing is your relationship with [00:07:00] yourself. When you don't enjoy your performing, it can be all too easy to slip into critical parent mode, where you are criticising everything, you are pushing yourself, you are bullying yourself to do stuff. Now that just makes the whole thing worse because when you're being bullied, you feel bullied and then you resist more potentially, or even if you do comply with what you're being told, you do it resentfully with a lot of resistance.

And then because it, there's either procrastination or resentment, you start to bully yourself more because you feel the resistance. And this creates a nasty cycle. Instead, treat yourself as a wise, kind friend would change your relationship with yourself in the moment. To lighten things. Laugh at yourself if you make a mistake.

Laugh at yourself if you're feeling nervous, because of course you're feeling nervous. It's fine to feel nervous. It's normal to feel nervous. And you'll find by laughing at your nerves and [00:08:00] normalising them, they actually reduce. So, What I'd love for you to take from today is this idea that how you feel and whether you enjoy your performance is all down to your relationship with your material, your relationship with yourself and your relationship with your audience.

And those aren't static. There is so much you can do to change your relationship with all of those, to bring a little fun. to what you do and a spring to your step. And the more of a spring you have in your step, the more of a spring the audience will have in their step. And you will feel that and it will create this wonderful uplift effect.

So that you will connect with them more, you will give them more, you will relax more, they will relax more. They will connect more and they will enjoy and you will enjoy more and the more they enjoy, the more you enjoy, the more you enjoy, the more they enjoy and the more relaxed you are. So I really hope that you can bring some of these to enjoy whatever it is [00:09:00] that you're worried about as your next performance, whether that's going and having a conversation one to one with your manager or whether it's going out into an auditorium onto the stage.

and singing your heart out. Use these techniques to bring a bit of joy to your performing and I hope that it will be transformative for you. I'm Hattie Voelcker from Find Your True Voice. Thank you so much for listening.